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The Red Sox Didn’t Find Superstars. They Found Roles.

How injuries, opportunity, and a clubhouse full of overlooked players reminded us that success often comes from roles and clarity—not celebrity.

If you had told me back in May that we’d be talking about the Red Sox as one of baseball’s hottest teams, I’d have politely asked if you had accidentally switched to watching the 2004 DVD collection. This wasn’t supposed to happen.

The roster was banged up and lacking punch. Established players went down. The trade deadline rumors were already beginning to swirl. Every sports talk show had a list of players who “needed” to be acquired because apparently every problem can be solved by spending someone else’s money.

Instead, something unexpected happened. The Red Sox started winning, and not because a superstar arrived. Not because someone suddenly hit 25 home runs in three weeks. They started winning because baseball did what baseball has always done, it created opportunity. That opportunity clarified roles.

Injuries Changed Everything

No coach wants injuries, and no true fan roots for them. But injuries have an interesting side effect. Under certain circumstances, they eliminate role uncertainty. When the roster is healthy, everyone competes for playing time. Players wonder if they’ll start tomorrow. Young prospects look over their shoulders after every 0-for-4 night, and veterans feel pressure to justify their contracts. Too many players, too few roles.

Then injuries happen. and suddenly there isn’t a debate anymore. You’re playing, go figure it out. Sometimes that’s exactly what a player needs. Positional logjams disappear, the next available player has the job and their role is clarified.

Role Clarity Is Powerful

One of the foundational ideas of the EIPA Framework is that knowledge without clarity rarely produces excellence. Before people can act confidently, they need to understand what success looks like. They need clarity about their role. Peter Lijnse (2025) states “When these roles are clearly defined and intentionally connected, the organization gains both strategic alignment and execution excellence“.  Players don’t simply want opportunity. They want to know where they fit.

A player who knows he’ll be batting sixth every night can prepare differently than someone who finds out thirty minutes before first pitch that he’s in left field because a player tweaked a hamstring and another has a wrist issue. Having a few more roles defined helps stabilize a clubhouse.

In EIPA terms, Epistēmē asks leaders to truly understand the talent they have, while Idea challenges them to create clarity around how each person’s strengths contribute to the larger mission. The Red Sox haven’t simply stumbled onto a hot streak—they’ve begun placing players into positions where preparation and opportunity finally intersect.

Confidence often follows consistency. Consistency creates rhythm. Rhythm creates performance. That’s true whether you’re playing second base, leading a software development team, mentoring a new employee, or raising a family. Clarity of roles across a team or in a situation creates positive performance and trust.

When people know their purpose, they’re free to execute it.

Baseball’s Greatest Secret

Fans love prospect rankings, while general managers love payroll flexibility. Media members love blockbuster trades. Baseball, however, has a funny way of reminding everyone that chemistry isn’t found on the back of a baseball card.

Every season a handful of “Who?” players become household names. Why? Because talent has always existed deeper than people realize. The difference is that someone finally gave them enough innings, enough at-bats, enough defensive reps, and enough trust to show what they could actually become.

Preparation finally met opportunity. That shouldn’t surprise anyone. Organizations often underestimate the capability already inside their own walls because they’re too busy searching for the next big acquisition. Conversely they may have too much talent for too few roles, or worse they’ve overestimated the talent of one while neglecting another.

The Clubhouse Changed

Winning changes everything, and players stop trying to be heroes. Instead of swinging for five-run home runs, they move runners. Pitchers attack the strike zone (The one consistent superiority in Boston all season) Defenders relax. A dugout that looked tense in May suddenly looks like a group of kids playing backyard baseball in July. Roles become clear in situations and positions, move the runner, drive in the rbi takes precedence over heroics and individual accolades.

That’s where another element of EIPA quietly appears.

Agapē is often translated as selfless or servant leadership. In sports, it shows itself when players stop chasing personal statistics and begin celebrating productive outs, relay throws, sacrifice flies, backing up teammates, and doing all the little things that rarely make the highlight reel.

Championship cultures aren’t built when everyone tries to become the star. They’re built when everyone becomes indispensable in their role. The role is anything from utility player to move the runner over, because that run wins it. Roles can change based on situation, day, weather, the pitcher being faced, or the gut instinct of the 30 year coach. But knowing with clarity from day to day and situation to situation who does what.

Confidence is contagious, so is panic. Thankfully, only one of those tends to produce winning streaks. Sometimes addition by subtraction creates the opportunity for confidence and roles clarity.

The Leadership Lesson

This season has become a reminder that organizations often underestimate the talent already inside their own walls. Or overestimate some while underestimating others. When results struggle, the instinct is to search outside. Fire someone and hire someone. Trade for someone. and spend more money.

Sometimes that’s exactly the right move. But sometimes the answer has been sitting three lockers down all along. The person simply needed a chance, or clearer expectations. Or a manager willing to say, “This is your job now.”

That’s where Praxis becomes the difference-maker.

Knowledge and planning are valuable, but they remain ideas until someone is trusted to act. Opportunity without execution accomplishes nothing. Execution without preparation rarely lasts. Great leaders connect the two.

Amazing things happen when people stop wondering if they’re allowed to succeed and simply get to work. One of the great misconceptions in leadership is that success comes from finding extraordinary people. More often, it comes from helping ordinary people discover they were capable of extraordinary things all along.

It’s Still Baseball

Will this last forever? Probably not. Baseball has a remarkable ability to humble everyone eventually. A hot July can become a frustrating August in a hurry. That’s part of what makes the game so endlessly entertaining.

But whether this surge carries into October isn’t really the point. The point is that this team has reminded us of something bigger than baseball. The Red Sox have unintentionally become a case study in the EIPA Framework.

They learned what talent they possessed—Epistēmē.

They gave players clear responsibilities and a vision for success—Idea.

Those players seized the opportunity through consistent execution—Praxis.

And somewhere along the way, individual success became secondary to the success of the clubhouse—Agapē.

That’s leadership, that’s culture. And that’s why teams with far less star power occasionally outperform teams loaded with household names. The Red Sox didn’t suddenly discover a roster full of All-Stars. They discovered something even more valuable. A clubhouse full of players who finally knew exactly what their role was—and were ready to own it.

Sometimes the biggest acquisition isn’t made at the trade deadline. Sometimes it’s the confidence that’s been waiting inside the clubhouse all along. Whether you’re managing a baseball team, running a business, leading a nonprofit, serving in the military, or mentoring the next generation, the lesson is remarkably consistent.

Know your people.

Give them clarity.

Trust them to act.

Serve something larger than yourself.

That’s baseball.

That’s leadership.

That’s EIPA.

Reference:

Lijnse, P. (2025, October 20). Power of role clarity. BRM Institute. https://brm.institute/power-of-role-clarity/

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Standards Are What We Accept

People rarely rise to the standards we publish. They rise—or fall—to the standards we consistently accept.

Businesses have employee handbooks; schools have honor codes. Sports teams have playbooks and core values. Governments have laws. Families have expectations that may never be written down but are understood just the same.

Yet the greatest threat to any institution is rarely the absence of standards. It is the quiet acceptance of lower ones.

We often believe culture is built by grand speeches, strategic plans, or mission statements framed on the office wall. In reality, culture is built in thousands of ordinary moments. It is shaped by what leaders praise, what they ignore, what they correct, and what they quietly excuse.

Football provides a useful illustration. Every coach worth listening to teaches the fundamentals of tackling. Keep your head up. Lead with the shoulder. Wrap up. Drive your legs. Those principles don’t simply make a player more effective; they help protect the player, his opponent, and the integrity of the game.

Yet anyone who has watched enough football has seen players abandon those fundamentals. Sometimes it happens because the game is incredibly fast. Sometimes it happens because players chase the spectacular hit instead of the fundamentally sound tackle. Regardless of the reason, the question for leadership remains the same:

Was it corrected?

The answer to that question says far more about an organization than the words printed in the coaching manual. The same principle applies in every aspect of life: a manager says punctuality matters but repeatedly overlooks chronic lateness among high performers. A teacher says academic honesty is essential but quietly ignores plagiarism because confronting it would be uncomfortable. A parent says respect is expected but laughs off behavior that undermines it. A leader says collaboration is important while rewarding those who succeed by stepping on everyone around them.

Every one of those decisions sends a message, not the message leaders intend to send. The message people actually receive. Standards are not established by proclamation. They are established by repetition. That is why stewardship matters.

Leadership is often portrayed as decisiveness, authority, or vision. Those qualities certainly have their place. But at its heart, leadership is stewardship. A steward protects what has been entrusted to them—people, institutions, values, and history. They recognize that every overlooked compromise, every convenient exception, and every lowered expectation becomes part of the culture inherited by those who follow.

This is not an argument for perfection; people make mistakes and circumstances vary. Compassion and grace are essential qualities of healthy leadership. But grace is not the same as abandoning standards. Healthy institutions distinguish between a person who falls short and a standard that should be lowered. Good leaders mentor the person while protecting the principle.

That distinction matters. Too often, organizations respond to recurring problems by rewriting expectations instead of helping people meet them. It is easier to lower the bar than to invest in coaching, mentoring, accountability, and growth.

The result is predictable: performance declines, trust erodes, and culture weakens. Eventually, people stop believing the standards were ever real.

One of the quiet truths of leadership is this:

People rarely rise to the standards we publish. They rise—or fall—to the standards we consistently accept.

That truth applies whether you’re coaching a youth baseball team, leading a Fortune 500 company, teaching a classroom, commanding a military unit, serving on a nonprofit board, or simply raising a family.

Standards are not burdens to be carried. They are promises, the kind we make to one another about the community we are trying to build and the people we hope to become.

Healthy institutions are not defined by flawless people. They are defined by leaders who have the courage to protect those promises with consistency, humility, and compassion. Because in the end, culture isn’t created by the standards we write, it is created by the standards we choose to live.

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Healthy Aging Is About Participation, Not Perfection

Why losing an inch off your waist may matter far less than gaining years of mobility, connection, and participation while aging.

I have a confession to make.

At not quite six feet tall and over 200 pounds, I’ve come to terms with a few realities. The lower belly is a stubborn tagalong, aging with me. The love handles appear to have signed a long-term lease agreement. And despite decades of effort, I never benched 200 pounds. Somewhere along the way, I accepted that I was not destined to become a fitness sensation. The world will somehow survive this disappointment.

Like many people, I’ve spent time focusing on the numbers. Weight, waist size, cholesterol, and blood pressure. Repetitive workouts, miles walked. Golf scores that resemble area codes. Those measurements matter (a little), but the older I get, the more I realize they are not the objective. They are indicators, not destinations along the path of aging.

The destination is something much larger.

Time is the most expensive resource any of us possesses. Money gets all the attention because it is easy to count. We can track investments, savings accounts, and retirement balances down to the penny. Time works differently. We spend it whether we realize it or not. We cannot save it, borrow it, refinance it, or earn more of it. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is promised to no one. Every day is a withdrawal from an account that never receives any further deposits.

The military taught me many lessons, some more useful than others. I still question whether the tenth safety brief of the week was truly the difference between success and catastrophe, but I understand the purpose now. Repetition creates competence. Competence creates confidence. Confidence creates capability. Aging without capability is not a desired outcome.

There is a reason emergency responders, pilots, military units, and medical professionals practice the same things repeatedly. When something goes wrong, there is no time to wonder where the tourniquet is stored, no time to search for the EpiPen. There is no time to develop a detailed strategic plan complete with PowerPoint slides and stakeholder engagement sessions. One of the strangest things about high-stress situations is that everything seems to slow down while simultaneously moving far too fast. People who have experienced emergencies often describe the same phenomenon. Every detail becomes crystal clear, yet there is no extra time available. Fear tends to occur before and after the event. During the event, there is usually a job to do.

That lesson extends far beyond emergencies. The habits we build today become the capabilities we rely on tomorrow. The future version of ourselves is largely built through boring, repetitive actions that nobody posts about on social media because they aren’t particularly exciting.

Take a walk.

Get some sleep.

Eat reasonably well.

Lift something heavier than the television remote.

Repeat.

Not exactly the material of blockbuster movies.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that fitness isn’t really about appearance. At least not primarily. Fitness is about participation. I want to drive my own car at 80. I want to walk a golf course without feeling like I need a pickup before the 7th hole. I want to travel, explore museums, wander historic cities, and spend far too much time reading plaques that everyone else walks right past. Healthy aging, a healthspan, is the goal.

Most of all, if I’m fortunate enough to have grandchildren someday, I want to watch them play baseball. Actually, that’s not entirely true. I don’t just want to watch them play baseball. I want to have a catch afterward. That’s the difference. I don’t want to remain in the bleachers because I have to. I want to walk onto the grass and say, “Grab your glove.”

When viewed through that lens, health becomes something different. Losing a few pounds, walking more, improving mobility, strength training, and making better food choices stop being acts of vanity. They become acts of stewardship. We are taking care of the machine because we still have places we want to go and people we want to spend time with.

If I lose one inch around my waist over the next year, that would be great. If I lose two inches, even better. But if I lose only one inch while experiencing less pain, sleeping better, playing better golf, enjoying more time with friends and family, and maintaining the ability to do the things I enjoy, I would consider that an unmitigated success.

The inch is not the victory. The life that comes with it is. When I think about healthy aging, I don’t picture a fitness magazine cover. I picture an afternoon in Italy.

Imagine walking into a small café in Siena or Florence at 90 years old. You set down a cane that is more of a classy accoutrement than a necessity. You order a coffee and a Moretti. You probably don’t finish the beer. The coffee gets cold because you’re talking too much. Your Italian is questionable. Their English is equally suspect. Yet somehow everyone understands each other perfectly.

Stories are exchanged. History is debated. Someone argues about soccer. You explain why baseball is superior. They insist you are wrong. Everyone laughs anyway.

That image has become my personal test. Not, “How much can I bench?” Not, “What do I weigh?” Not even, “How many inches are around my waist?” Instead, I ask, “Am I making decisions today that increase the likelihood of that afternoon becoming reality?”

There is one final piece to this picture.

Imagine a 50-year-old walking into that same café and seeing the 90-year-old at the table. He is still curious. Still engaged. Still mobile. Still participating in life. The older man doesn’t give a lecture about fitness. He doesn’t discuss protein intake, calorie deficits, or the latest miracle supplement that promises eternal youth and probably delivers expensive urine.

He simply lives. And maybe the younger person leaves inspired. Perhaps they decide to take a walk, or finally book the trip they’ve been postponing. Maybe they lose a few pounds, maybe they call an old friend.

The best leaders often teach without teaching. They demonstrate what is possible.

I don’t need to look like a movie star. I don’t need to shoot my age in golf. I don’t even mind carrying a cane someday. I would simply prefer that the cane be optional and stylish rather than mandatory and frustrating.

My goal is not perfection, it is participation. I want to remain curious, mobile, and engaged. I want to continue learning, teaching, writing, traveling, mentoring, laughing, and spending time with the people I care about.

The goal is not to avoid aging, it is to age well. And if that journey happens to include a smaller waist, a better-fitting polo shirt, and the occasional compliment along the way, I am willing to make that sacrifice.

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The Power of Boundaries and the Importance of Being Reasonable

Boundaries, Belonging, and the Courage to Be Reasonable

There seems to be a growing belief that every problem requires an absolute solution. Someone disagrees with you? Cut them out of your life. Your boss asks for help? Establish a boundary. A family member annoys you? Toxic. A neighbor has a different opinion? Problematic.

Sometimes I wonder if we’ve confused healthy boundaries with building a moat around ourselves. Don’t get me wrong. Boundaries matter.

If someone is abusive, manipulative, or consistently harmful, protecting yourself isn’t selfish. It’s responsible. If work is consuming every waking hour of your life, it is reasonable to push back. If a relationship only functions when one person sacrifices everything, that relationship isn’t healthy.

But somewhere along the way, we seem to have forgotten the second half of the equation: being reasonable. A boundary is not a weapon, nor a way to win an argument. It is not a declaration that your needs are the only needs that matter.

A boundary simply defines where your responsibilities end and someone else’s begin. The challenge is that life is rarely black and white.

A friend may need help moving on a Saturday when you’d rather watch baseball or a coworker may ask for assistance when you’re already busy. A family member may call at an inconvenient time because they genuinely need support.

Reasonable people understand that healthy boundaries and healthy flexibility can coexist. You can help without becoming responsible for everyone else’s problems. You can say no without being cruel.

Conversely, you can say yes without becoming a doormat. You can disagree without ending a friendship (Respect, Disagreement, and the EIPA Framework).

For much of my life, I wasn’t particularly good at setting boundaries. Part of that was personality. Part of it was wanting to help. Part of it was simply wanting people to like me.

If you’ve ever struggled with social anxiety, felt left out, or spent time wondering why you didn’t quite fit in, you know how powerful that desire can become. You don’t want to disappoint anyone. You don’t want to create conflict. You don’t want to be the reason someone is upset.

So you say yes. You volunteer, take on one more responsibility. You accept treatment you shouldn’t accept. You convince yourself that if you’re accommodating enough, helpful enough, or agreeable enough, eventually you’ll earn your place.

The problem is that people who struggle with belonging often become experts at carrying burdens that were never theirs to carry. I know because I’ve done it. Not because anyone forced me to, but because saying no felt uncomfortable and stressful. Saying no felt selfish. Saying no felt like risking rejection, or worse.

The irony is that failing to set boundaries doesn’t create healthier relationships. It creates confusion, resentment, and exhaustion. People begin expecting what should have been appreciated. You become responsible for problems that aren’t yours. And eventually you realize you’ve spent so much energy trying to make everyone else happy at the cost of your own sense of well-being, that you’ve forgotten to ask what you actually need.

Healthy boundaries weren’t something I learned because a book told me to set them. I learned them because I eventually discovered that constantly trying to earn acceptance is a losing strategy. The people worth having in your life don’t require you to sacrifice yourself to keep them there.

The strongest leaders understand this balance better than most. A leader with no boundaries eventually burns out trying to satisfy everyone. Every request becomes urgent. Each complaint becomes their problem, every conflict becomes theirs to solve.

However, a leader with rigid boundaries isn’t much better. They become unavailable, detached, and unwilling to adapt when circumstances change. The best leaders know when to hold the line and when to bend.

Think of a tree during a storm. The tree that refuses to move may break, but the tree that bends with every gust may never grow straight. The healthy tree does both, using roots while maintaining flexibility.

There is another side to this conversation that often gets overlooked. Not everyone arrives at a workplace, team, classroom, or community with the same experiences. Some people naturally speak up, while others confidently establish boundaries. Some walk into a room assuming they belong there, others do not.

There are individuals who carry years of being overlooked, excluded, bullied, or dismissed. They may hesitate to share ideas. They may volunteer for everything because they fear disappointing others. They may avoid conflict because conflict has historically come at a personal cost.

These individuals are not weak. In many cases, they have simply learned different survival strategies. This is where leadership matters. The EIPA framework challenges leaders to move beyond managing people and toward understanding them.

Knowledge asks us to learn who people are.

Clarity asks us to see their strengths, challenges, and potential honestly.

Action asks us to mentor, coach, and develop them.

Service asks us to invest in their success rather than merely extracting their effort.

A good leader recognizes that every person brings something different to the team.

The loudest voice is not always the wisest, and the most confident person is not always the most capable. The quiet individual sitting at the edge of the room may simply be waiting for someone to show genuine interest in what they have to offer.

When leaders take the time to understand those differences, something remarkable happens. The person who struggles to set boundaries begins learning that their value is not dependent on saying yes to everything. The person lacking confidence begins finding their voice. The person who once felt left out begins discovering where they belong.

They start to feel a sense of belonging, not because they were forced to fit in. Not because they changed who they were. But because someone helped them recognize the strengths they already possessed. That is mentorship; it is leadership. And perhaps most importantly, that is how future leaders are created.

One lesson I’ve learned over the years is that service and self-sacrifice are not the same thing. While helping others is noble, serving others is worthwhile. But service without boundaries eventually becomes depletion, even despair. You cannot continuously pour from an empty cup, lead without energy, support others without rest, or help people while neglecting yourself. Particularly when you feel overlooked or discounted.

Healthy boundaries are not selfish; they are an act of stewardship. They allow us to continue showing up for the people who matter most without losing ourselves in the process.

In EIPA terms, boundaries are where knowledge, clarity, action, and service meet. They require us to understand our limits, see situations honestly, act consistently, and care for both ourselves and others.

The ultimate goal is not to teach someone to build higher walls. It is to help them develop the confidence to open and close the gate themselves. In a world increasingly encouraging us to choose sides, draw lines, and separate ourselves into smaller and smaller groups, perhaps the real skill isn’t setting stronger boundaries.

Perhaps it’s learning how to set healthy boundaries while still leaving the gate open. Because walls divide, but boundaries guide. And reasonable people may know the difference if they are taught.

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The Fish and the Tree: What the Red Sox Can Teach Us About Leadership

Providing the Challenge and the Opportunity

The Boston Red Sox have no shortage of talent. They have stars, prospects, veterans, coaches, executives, and millions of passionate fans who care deeply about the organization. Yet as I have watched the conversations surrounding Brayan Bello, Rafael Devers, and the club’s future, I find myself thinking less about baseball and more about leadership.

Specifically, I find myself wondering whether organizations sometimes focus too much on labels and not enough on people.

Brayan Bello and the Search for Consistency

Consider the Bello situation. Every Red Sox fan can see the talent. The sinker has movement. The changeup can be devastating. On the right night, Bello looks like a pitcher capable of dominating major league hitters. Yet consistency has remained elusive, and the discussion often becomes simple: Should he remain a starter, move to the bullpen, or be sent to AAA?

Those are fair baseball questions. But I think there is a more important leadership question. Where can Bello best help the Red Sox win? That may sound like a minor distinction, but it is an entirely different conversation.

The Fish and the Tree

A popular saying, often incorrectly attributed to Albert Einstein, suggests that if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it may spend its entire life believing it is incapable. Whether Einstein actually said those words is beside the point. The idea is hardly new. Similar lessons appear in educational fables such as George H. Reavis’ The Animal School, where animals are judged against standards that fail to recognize their natural strengths. The lesson remains powerful.

Perhaps Bello is baseball’s version of a fish being asked to climb a tree. A fish is not untalented, nor lazy, nor broken. A fish simply thrives in the water.

The question is not whether the fish possesses talent. The question is whether we have placed it in the environment where its talents can flourish. That is where leadership enters the discussion.

Too often, organizations approach struggling performers with a verdict.

“You failed.”

“You are not good enough.”

“We need someone else.”

Honest Conversations Matter

Good leaders approach the situation differently. They provide both challenge and opportunity. Challenge plus opportunity is a leader’s responsibility, a concept that aligns closely with the principles outlined in the EIPA Framework. Challenge without opportunity becomes criticism. Opportunity without challenge becomes complacency. The two must coexist; learning to have talent conversations (Center for Creative Leadership) is non-negotiable for leaders.

Imagine a conversation with Bello that begins not with a demotion, but with belief.

“Brayan, we know you have the talent to succeed, and we think you can help this team win.”

“We also believe there may be another path that allows your strengths to emerge more consistently.”

“We want you learning from veteran pitchers, in their environment.”

“We want you working alongside people who have experienced success, adversity, reinvention, and pressure.”

“We are not giving up on you, we are investing in you.”

Of course, in this instance, a previous conversation with prospective mentors has to take place. They need to be willing and able to take Bello under their wing, teach the nuances, and provide the left and right safety nets to function.

That is a very different conversation. Perhaps the answer to Bello’s struggles is mechanical. Perhaps it is statistical. Perhaps it is mental. None of us can know for certain. What we do know is that people often perform better when they understand the challenge before them and can clearly see the opportunity on the other side.

I often wonder about Rafael Devers. Not because I know what conversations occurred behind closed doors, but because I understand the importance of communication. Imagine if several years ago the organization sat down with Devers and said:

“Raffy, we want you in Boston for your entire career.”

“We believe you can become one of the greatest Red Sox players of your generation, if not all time.”

“We want to challenge you to improve defensively at third base.”

“We also want to create an opportunity for you to learn first base.”

“Not because we are replacing you.”

“Because we see a future where versatility extends your career, increases your value, and keeps you wearing a Red Sox uniform for years to come.”

Would the outcome be different? Perhaps, perhaps not. No leader can guarantee success. No coach can guarantee buy-in. No executive can guarantee acceptance. Leadership is not about controlling outcomes.

The Importance of Mentorship

Veterans such as Aroldis Chapman and Garrett Whitlock have experienced the highs and lows of professional baseball. They understand something many young players eventually learn. A player’s value is not determined by a title. Be that title Starter, Reliever, Setup man, or Closer.

Those are labels. The real objective is helping the team win. Red Sox history provides a valuable reminder. The 2004 World Series championship team is remembered for David Ortiz, Manny Ramirez, Curt Schilling, and Pedro Martinez and rightfully so.

But the Red Sox do not win that championship without Mike Timlin and Alan Embree (or Bellhorn, Cabrera, or Mientkiewicz, et al., for that matter).

Championship teams require stars. They also require players who embrace roles and excel in them. That lesson extends beyond Brayan Bello. The leadership needs to forget the label and provide the challenge (think role) and the opportunity (innings reliever behind an opener, perhaps). Excelling with the challenge and opportunity may build the exact mental state needed to be a superstar, ignore the label and pressure that comes with it, and fill the role or need.

Leadership Beyond Baseball

Leadership is about creating the conditions where success becomes more likely. That requires more than action. It requires conversation.

The conversational requirements of leadership are honesty, support, accountability, and genuine care. Honesty without support feels harsh. Support without honesty feels hollow. Care without accountability creates excuses. Accountability without care creates resentment.

The best leaders combine all four. They tell people the truth. They provide support. They demonstrate genuine care. They establish accountability. And, most importantly, they help people see a path forward.

Whether in baseball, business, education, government, or family life, people are more willing to accept difficult challenges when they understand the purpose behind them and believe someone is committed to helping them succeed.

That is why leadership is not simply about evaluating talent. It is about developing talent. It is about identifying potential. It is about helping people become capable of more than they believed possible. The goal is not to force people into boxes; it is to identify where their strengths can flourish.

Because once a fish finds the ocean, nobody worries about how well it climbs trees.

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Finding Common Ground Part II: Respect, Disagreement, and the EIPA Framework

Common Ground — Essays on shared experiences that bring people together.

Modern life often feels defined by disagreement. The first essay in this series focused on the shared experiences that bring people together—the quiet moments where division fades without effort. This essay moves to the next step, finding common ground.

Finding common ground is not only about shared environments or experiences. It is also about how we engage when differences are clear, when agreement is unlikely, and when the conversation itself becomes the test.

This essay moves from shared experience to disciplined engagement—applying the EIPA framework to disagreement without division.

The Discipline of Respect (EIPA)

There is a quiet failure in modern discourse.
Not a lack of intelligence. Not a lack of information.

A lack of discipline.

We no longer struggle to understand each other—we struggle to value understanding at all.

Under the EIPA framework—Epistēmē, Idea, Praxis, Agapē—finding common ground is not a soft skill. It is a structured practice. One that demands clarity, restraint, and ownership.

Epistēmē — Knowing What We Share

Before debate, before position, before conclusion—there is reality.

Most people share far more than they admit:

  • A desire for stability
  • A need for dignity
  • A responsibility to family
  • A hope for a better future

These are not ideological positions. They are human constants.

The failure begins when we ignore these foundations and jump directly to differences. When we do that, we’re not engaging—we’re posturing.

Common ground is not discovered at the extremes.
It is identified at the base layer.

Idea — Reframing the Objective

If the goal of a conversation is to win, it is already lost.

A better objective:

  • Understand the other person’s position clearly enough to explain it back to them
  • Identify where alignment exists, even if small
  • Accept that disagreement is not a defect—it is a condition of independent thought

Agreement is not required. Respect is.

There is strength in saying:

“I see your position. I don’t agree with it.”

No embellishment. No insult. No performance.

Just clarity.

Praxis — How This Looks in Practice

Finding common ground is not theoretical. It is behavioral.

It shows up in simple, repeatable actions:

  • Listen without preparing your rebuttal
  • Acknowledge valid points explicitly
  • Own your errors immediately and without qualification
  • Do not celebrate being right
  • Do not punish someone else for being wrong

This is where most people fail.

Accuracy becomes ego.
Correction becomes humiliation.
And dialogue collapses into distance.

The discipline is in restraint.

You can be correct and still damage the outcome.
You can be wrong and still strengthen the relationship—if you own it.

Agapē — The Standard of Conduct

At the highest level, this is about how we choose to treat people.

Not those who agree with us.
Everyone.

Extending a hand is not weakness. It is control.

It says:

  • “I am confident enough not to diminish you.”
  • “I am grounded enough to stand without pushing.”

Respect is not earned through alignment.
It is demonstrated through conduct.

And when that standard is held consistently, something shifts:

  • Conversations slow down
  • Defensiveness lowers
  • Understanding becomes possible

Not guaranteed. But possible.

The Discipline of “Agreeing to Disagree”

This phrase is often dismissed. It shouldn’t be.

To genuinely agree to disagree requires:

  • Full comprehension of the opposing view
  • Acceptance that resolution is not always achievable
  • A decision to maintain respect regardless

That is not avoidance.
That is control over ego.

Not every issue will resolve.
Not every belief will align.

But every interaction presents a choice:

Push people away.
Or leave the door open.

Closing Thought

Common ground is not a compromise of belief.
It is a commitment to how belief is carried.

Own your mistakes.
Hold your accuracy quietly.
Extend your hand first.

Most people are not as far apart as they appear.
They are simply standing behind defenses that no one has chosen to lower.

Be the one who lowers it.

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Chris McCarty writes about leadership, culture, and the role of sport in community life. His essays explore how shared experiences—particularly sports—can bring people together in a divided media environment.

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Why Ethical Organizations Move Faster

Most organizations say they want decisive, accountable people.
Then they punish mistakes — and wonder why everyone hesitates.

Fear doesn’t reduce risk. It creates it.

When ethics are treated as compliance, judgment disappears. People escalate, wait, and hide behind policy. Decision-making slows, and leadership atrophies.

The fastest organizations do the opposite. They embed ethics early, set clear boundaries, and trust people to act. When errors happen, accountability means ownership and repair — not loss of trust. The person who made the mistake is expected to lead the fix.

That single move sends a powerful message: confidence wasn’t withdrawn.

This is ethics as infrastructure, not enforcement — and it’s how organizations stay human without becoming hesitant.

I explore the full framework and how to apply it in the Nonfiction section.

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